How to say no on a dating site

Maria Avgitidis In online dating world, even moderately attractive or seemingly successful members are showered with adoration as if they were celebrities. It is much safer than trying to be nice about in person. There's generally two types, those who send out a bunch of generic messages to many people, hoping for a bite.I found a balanced approach worked best for me: Spotting these people is tough because they seem so genuine and enthusiastic.

Busy week, other things to focus on – sometimes I forget I sent a note at all.

But when she writes back, when she makes eye contact, then the rejection becomes personal and I have to think about it.

Here, nine women share their strategies for how they turn down a date—or just avoid it, depending on the style (and level of cowardice) of each particular lady.

Rachel, 28 "I am very blunt when I'm not interested.

Ellie Krupnick of Mic writes, " Why are we all ghosting each other when the alternative is so simple?

If it seems like the fellow in question actually took the time to compose a thoughtful email based on what he read in your profile, the nice thing to do is to send back a polite message telling him you're not interested. When I was actively online, I had the same situation.

I also remember sending notes to women I found interesting and getting absolutely no reply at all. I may not even notice that whomever she was didn’t reply.

These women find something potentially valuable about me, and many of them clearly work as hard on their approach messages as I do on mine, trying to appeal to something in my profile that struck them, working to connect the dots and sell me on the idea that they’re really worth my while.

She has taken the time and is making the effort to look me in the eye and make sure I understand that she isn’t interested and to explain why. In nearly every way I can think of, this is upside-down, ass-backwards and inside-out from how I was brought up.

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