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"On one hand, it's great that these girls have a venue in which to explore their sexuality safely, but on the other hand, I've learned a few times on first dates with women I met online that they've never been with a woman before," she says.

"This is not necessarily a problem, but sometimes it's hard to gauge if someone is feeling experimental versus being very much past that stage." A straight-identifying friend even told me she sometimes turns her Tinder to women-seeking-women to chat with women even though she'd "probably never do anything." Enough false-positive matches like that would turn anyone off.

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Sure, straight-focused apps like Tinder and Bumble allow for same-sex swiping, but, for gay women especially, that often leads to matches who are just dabbling in same-sex hookups or are looking to plan a threesome for their boyfriend.

My friend Laura, 27, who identifies as queer and has been out for about seven years, says that while these dating apps have allowed straight and questioning women to explore their sexualities more, they're also a risky endeavor for queer women.

The wide range of identities of women-seeking-women not only makes it hard to sign up for apps that only have three options (straight, lesbian, bisexual) but could also explain why the majority of the queer women I spoke to say they prefer to meet dates through friends.

"I build everything on trust," my friend Valey, 27, who meets other women through friends IRL, told me.

Daatch's Google page reports primarily one star reviews, with one commenter saying, "The most useful thing about this app is finding all the lesbians complaining about it (me included)" and another saying, "Poor app, wouldn't let me upload pics and wouldn't save text, even had trouble to close my account. " The app later received $1 million in funding from investors and was rebranded as Her, which CEO and founder Robyn Exton says currently has just under one million users, and a much-improved 4.5 star rating on i Tunes.

The only other dating app for queer women to get much press at all was Scissr, whose rating in the i Tunes store is comprised only of 1 and 2 star reviews with one user saying, "Good concept but most users are inactive and the filter options don't work," which sounds like every queer dating app I've ever encountered.

Dinesh Moorjani, co-founder of Tinder and CEO of Hatch Labs Inc.

where Tinder was created, says that another reason lesbian dating apps may have failed to prosper could be that investors don't see that 3.4 percent of America as a large enough market to tackle (never mind that gay and bi men make up about the same proportion of the population as gay and bi women, and Grindr has 10 times the users of Her).

Everyone and their brother has their own dating app, and investors often aren't interested in this space," Kay says.

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